I Asked the leader, “Is there a way that your playstation time could showcase irresponsibility towards your family?”

His version of relaxation was to play video games late into the night. And the way he justified spending this time was telling himself, “I am working so hard during the day that I need to reward myself during the night. What he did not realize is that his pre-occupation with “Me” did not include time for “We”. The most important part of WE that was getting sacrificed was family time.

Without his ability to sequence “We” before “Me”, this coachee felt that he ran the risk of alienating his family, while also feeling doubly guilty about not prioritizing them. As a Coach I felt the need for a powerful question that included a nudge – “Is there a way that your play station time could showcase irresponsibility towards your family?”

The full impact of the question dawned on the coachee and his eyes became moist. He realised that pandering to his instincts were impeding his intentions.

The next choice was to inquire and explore his emotions further. And, the next questions was. What would you do differently given your realisation?

And so the coaching progressed…..